Each Alateen Group has one or two Alateen Group Sponsors. These are adult members of Al‑Anon who have been through a certification process. They provide safety and guidance in the meeting and help the Alateens keep the meeting focused on the Al-Anon/Alateen program of recovery. An Alateen Group Sponsor doesn’t play the role of a teacher or assume a parental role. They honor Alateen members’ anonymity. For the safety of all involved, Alateen groups cannot meet without certified Alateen Group Sponsors present. When Alateen Group Sponsors are not available, Alateens are welcome in Al-Anon meetings.
There are many places where an alcoholic can find help. The most widely known is Alcoholics Anonymous (A.A.). A.A. is available when the alcoholic is ready to ask for and accept help
Yes! When we become involved in Alateen and Al‑Anon, we find many others who share similar feelings. In Alateen, we learn to take care of ourselves, regardless of what anyone else does. With a change of attitude, members learn to appreciate themselves and others. Love and respect can become a part of life.
Alcoholism affects everyone in the family. Non-alcoholic parents might feel lonely, frightened, confused, or angry. They might act nervous, irritable, and resentful. At times, we might feel they don’t deserve our respect because they appear to be unable to cope with what is happening in the home. Without help, living with a problem drinker is too much for most of us. In Alateen, we can learn to deal with our resentments toward both parents. Others in the family may be suffering just as deeply as we are. It helps to be patient and understanding. Many of us encourage our other family members to seek help in Al‑Anon.
There is not a “yes” or “no” answer to this question. Experts do not agree on exactly what makes a person an alcoholic. However, since alcoholism does tend to run in families, the children of alcoholics are at greater risk. Learning about alcohol, and its effects, can help us to make a decision about its place in our lives.
When someone is out of control, it makes sense to avoid contact with them, if possible. It doesn’t make any sense to fight or argue with someone who is drinking. It may be necessary to leave the room or home temporarily. Contact someone trustworthy. It may be a friend, relative, spiritual adviser, guidance counselor, teacher, or the police. Plan ahead and have the phone number of a safe place where help is available.
Love is distorted by the disease of alcoholism. Alcoholics often take out their hostilities on others in irrational ways, and may not be able to express love appropriately. Those of us who live in alcoholic situations may act irrationally as well.
Don’t take their refusal personally. Our friends might not understand the disease of alcoholism. They may only feel uncomfortable in your home and not with you. Don’t withdraw from them or group activities. A positive attitude can be an example to others with similar problems.
It is natural to feel angry, ashamed, or embarrassed when this happens. Talking to other Alateen members can help you decide what you might say to your other friends. As we attend meetings and understand more about alcoholism, we can learn to handle such situations.
We can find hope in every situation, no matter how things look at the moment. By going to Alateen and Al‑Anon, we can help ourselves have a better life, whether the alcoholic stops drinking or not. We come to believe that the only life we are responsible for or have any control over is our own.